I've been a little under the weather this week which is why I've been absent. I'm starting to feel a little better and hopefully will be fully recovered by tomorrow for the fourth edition of Bridey Night. :) The girls will all be coming to my house tomorrow night for some more wedding planning and chit chat.
At the last Bridey Night, the big topic of conversation was the issue of children and plus ones on the guest list. None of the brides in attendance were looking to have a few hundred people at their weddings, but realized that the guest list is a sensitive subject. Nobody wants to leave family members and old friends feeling left out.
Zac and I discussed our guest list pretty early on. We needed to get a rough estimate of a guest count so that we could see what our venue budget would need to look like. After reviewing the list and going over costs we made the decision that we could not be including children in our big day plans. It's not that we don't love little ones, its just that since we both have big families, and friends with kids, including all these children significantly increased our guest count to a number we weren't comfortable with. So we opted to make our wedding an adult only occasion. Plus we think our parent friends would enjoy a night to cut loose and party with us, though we hope that finding babysitters won't be an issue.
We also decided to mnimize plus ones. Though traditionally, all single guests should be given a plus one on their invite, Zac and I decided that our wedding was not the time to meet people for the first time. We figured that a wedding is a time to spend with people you know and love; family and friends that are a part of your lives. Those people are already getting an invite so there is no need for additional plus ones.
Not everyone will agree with our decision to minimize our guest count but we hope that all in attendance will have a great time.
Having trouble finalizing your guest list? Dealing with the issue of plus ones and children? What did you decide? I'd love to hear all about it.
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This was a hard decision for us too. We decided no children...people want to enjoy weddings and when they take their children it is hard too. We are giving everyone a plus one since we have single friends...I am just hoping they bring someone close to them and not just a "date".
We are only inviting the children that are in the wedding which are our nieces and nephews..and yes we struggled with the plus one too. Obviously those who are married or living with someone or seriously dating are aloud to bring their significant other but those that are single and don't technically have a significant other will not be allowed to bring a plus one (unless they are in the wedding party or traveling a long distance and don't really have any ties to any other guest at the wedding. We are already 15 over the max our venue will hold so we are banking on people rsvp'ing a No.
Hi there. We decided that since we were serving alcohol and given the location of our reception (a hilly golf course), we decided to have an adult-only reception as well.
As for plus-ones.... this might be dangerous.... but we are handling that on a case-by-case basis. Some people we are just closer to and want them to bring their significant others, some of them just want to bring a casual date (ie a stranger to us) and we just would rather have more friends and people we care about than strangers.
Lets hope it doesn't create too many enemies for us!
On this note - I came across your invite suite and fell in love with your RSVP card. Im not sure how to best get ahold of you, so I am hittin' ya up everywhere. Sorry to be a stalker!
Would you mind sharing your template with me?
Let me know :)
~Dama
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